Marriage 2.0

Soulmates: Part 2

Marriage 2.0

Discussion Questions

Start Talking

What are some examples of consumer thinking (e.g., fairness, transaction-based) that can negatively affect your relationship?
How do you currently approach your relationship—like a consumer or a covenant?
- How can you shift toward more of a covenantal mindset?
Think about a time when you put your spouse’s happiness above your own. How did that change the dynamic of the relationship?

Read This

Read John 13:34
- What does this verse teach us about to how we should love others?
Read Ephesians 5:21-22
- What does "submit to one another out of reverence for Christ" look like practically in a relationship?
- Why do you think submitting to your spouse is so hard, and how does this action reflect your relationship with God?
Read Ephesians 5:25
- What sacrifices might this require from you in your own marriage?
- How does this challenge your understanding of love?
Read Ephesians 5:28
- According to this verse, what benefit does loving your wife have for you?
Read Ephesians 5:31-33
- What are some practical ways you can show respect to your spouse?
- Ephesians 5:32 describes marriage as a mystery that points to Christ and the church. How does this view change the way we approach marriage?
- How does this shift our understanding of intimacy and commitment?
Read Philippians 2:3-4
- Philippians 2:3-4 challenges us to "value others above yourselves." How can you apply this principle in your marriage and relationships?
Read Philippians 2:5-8
- What mindset are we to have towards our relationships with others?
- What are some examples of having a mind like Christ about your relationships?

What Now

How does the idea that "the biggest problem in this relationship is me" change how you view conflicts in your marriage or relationships?
What are some specific ways you can take responsibility for your own selfishness in relationships rather than blaming the other person?
How can your marriage be a reflection of Christ’s relationship with the church?
- What changes would need to take place for that to be true?
What are some areas in your marriage where you’ve struggled with selfish ambition or vain conceit?
- How can you actively choose to serve your spouse instead?
The sermon highlighted the principle, "If you want happiness, pursue their happiness." How can you implement this mindset in your daily life and marriage?
- Are there specific desires your spouse has expressed that you can prioritize to show your love and commitment?
Reflect on the following exercise from the sermon: “If you did ________ for me every week, things would be different in our marriage.” What would your spouse fill in the blank with, and how can you take action on it?

If you want happiness, pursue their happiness. Don’t look to your own interest but to the interest of the other.

Additional Series Resources

Bible Reading Plan

Song: Like You Love Me by Tauren Wells