For the leader: This is a great day to use story cards. Begin your group by asking each member to pick a card that could describe them as a teenager. Have fun with this!


Teenagers are processing all sorts of things! But you know this– you have been one! However, much of what they are processing is what we are still processing as adults. In fact, the world offers us all sorts of places to find the answers to our deepest questions. But, we think the best answers are found in what God says about us!

Start Talking

  • Share one of your most insecure moments as a teenager! 
  • Charles mentioned that teenagers have several core desires, and questions they want answered. Think back to when you were a student. Which of the statements below do you remember feeling (It doesn’t have to be on the year indicated)? 
    • 6th Grade: “Who likes Me? Who do I like?”
    • 7th/8th Grade: “Who am I?”
    • 9th Grade: “Where do I belong?”
    • 10th Grade: “Why should I believe? What do I believe?”
    • 11th Grade: “How can I matter? What am I good at?”
    • 12th Grade: “What will I do? What am I going to do next?”
  • Thinking about the statements above, do you still, even as an adult connect with one of them? Howso? While similar, how is this desire different from when you were a teenager?
  • In summary, these desires could be categorized as Identity (Who am I?), Belonging (Where do I belong?), and Purpose (What difference do I make?). As an adult, which of these have you wrestled with most?
  • Talk about some “places” adults around you have looked for identity (ex: Job, car) 
  • Name something you feel like you “belong to”. What makes you feel like you belong there?
  • How would you describe your purpose? Has it been important to you to be able to articulate it?

Read This

  • We would probably all agree that identity, purpose, and belonging, are all things that have eternal implications, and that how we pursue those things matters! However, we often seek the answers to those questions in temporal things. Yet, Charles made the statement, “We should take eternal Questions to the One who is eternal”. In essence, we should see what God says about these things over any other source! Read 1 Peter 2:9-10.
    • What stands out to you?
    • What does Peter say about the Church’s identity? Read also 2 Corinthians 5:17
    • What effect does it have on your life to understand that you are accepted by God?
    • What do these verses show us  about our purpose (v. 9)?
  • How have you found it to be true that our “Identity impacts our living”?
  • Do you believe this statement: “Our identity informs our destiny”?

What Now?

  • As you think about Identity, Belonging, and Purpose, which one of these things do you need to give some attention to? What has God shown you about it through our conversation?
  • What are you doing to help someone else understand their identity, find belonging, and walk in their purpose?
  • Read this list outloud: 
    • You are forgiven and your sins washed away. John 3:16
    • You are greatly loved by God. Romans 8:35-39
    • You are more than a conqueror through Christ. Romans 8:37
    • You are God’s masterpiece. Eph 2:10
    • You are the light of the world. Matt 5:14
    • You are filled with the same Spirit that raised Christ. Rom 8:11
    • You are a joint heir with Christ. Rom 8:17
    • You are Christ’s ambassador. 2 Cor 5:20
    • You are the righteousness of God in Christ.  2 Cor. 5:21
  • Which of these truth’s do you need to believe this week? How can this group help?

Consider This:

Write down the list above and post it where you can see it. Perhaps you could even commit some of these verses to memory. Remember, the answer to eternal things is in the one who holds eternity. There is peace in believing what He says!


Additional Resources

Abbas Child by Brennan Manning (Book)
Champion by Maverick City Music (Song)
Jireh by Elevation Worship & Maverick City Music (Song)