For the leader: This is the final week of Screen Time. Therefore, there is a lot to discuss below! We encourage you to read ahead and pick and choose the questions that you feel best fit your group! If you have already discussed an idea, don’t feel like you have to ask that question, and as always, you can add your own! Be sure to make space to open up the Bible together and really dig into the “Look It Up” section. We hope you have a great time celebrating all that God has done in your hearts and lives during this season!
The questions below are designed to be a guide and starting point for good conversation! You don’t have to ask all of them, and you can even add your own. The goal of tonight is not to finish these questions, it is to get your group talking openly about what God is showing them about this message. We encourage you to pick and choose from the questions below!
While this series has been focused on living in freedom with our technology, what we are really talking about is living a free life. We have discussed that while technology offers us a lot, it isn’t and can’t provide us with the life we want and need. Today, we are going to talk about putting some rhythms in place that may help us live the life we want, and the one God offers us.
- What is the most ridiculous photo you have posted (or seen) for the “sake of social media”? *For fun: Have someone in your group pull the instagram account “influencers in the wild” (or maybe check it out before and pick a good picture or two to share). You will definitely enjoy seeing people do crazy things for a good picture!
- Have you ever had a moment of realizing you were missing your real life for being on your phone or device? How did that feel, and who did it affect?
- Rebekah shared her instagram journey with us. She mentioned that while she started posting about her “story of rescue” to help people (a good thing), she eventually found herself posting things just because she thought people wanted to hear them (a bad thing). As a result she felt stuck in a cycle of having to post the right thing for the right people. Have you experienced something like this in your own life?
- In our time with Rebekah she said, “Public affection can’t heal private rejection.” Has there been a time when you have looked to social media to heal something that had previously happened in your real life?
What About You?
There are four rhythms Rebekah mentioned in our conversation that she says can help us “replace stress and anxiety with a life-giving peace and purpose. They help us nurture and sustain lasting emotional health.”
Two of the Rhythms she describes as Input rhythms:
- Rest (ex: practicing Sabbath, taking a break from something)
- Restore (ex: exercise, eating)
Two of the Rhythms she describes as output rhythms:
- Connect (ex:” Laughing with a friend, sharing openly)
- Create (recovering and old talent, picking up a hobby)
- Practicing these input rhythms must happen before practicing the output rhythms, as the former gives us the energy to do the latter. Which of the two input rhythms do you do well, and which needs more practice?
- Do you have any rhythms of Sabbath (resting) in your life? What does this all include?
- Rebekah discussed with us that this idea of living in rhythms is actually already in our natural world! It’s in the way our heartbeats, the way a baby is born, and in the way the sun rises and sets. Did you catch that blue light (sunrise) actually helps us wake up, and that red light (sunset) releases melatonin, which helps us go to sleep? In terms of sleep, what do you need to do to help your body follow the natural rhythms already in place?
- So often, caring for our bodies takes last place in a list of many to-dos. However, in our conversation on Sunday we discussed that caring for our bodies is a key part of overcoming stress and anxiety. How can you care for your body better (ex: not two venti coffees, getting outside)?
- How do you practice the rhythm of connection? Who do you feel most connected to, and how does that relationship encourage you in your relationship with God?
- What do you do that simply makes you feel creative? What hobby or talent do you practice that brings you joy? How can you create space in life to practice that more?
- Pick one rhythm to give attention to this week. How can this group encourage you to take the steps you need?
Look It Up
- The book of Galatians was written to a church in the city of Galatia. Some might say it is one of the most important writings of Paul in that he was trying to help believers establish a new way of living, one of grace and not of living by the law. Many people in this church didn’t understand this new way of thinking, so Paul was doing his best to remind them of the “why” of the new life Jesus offered them. Read Galatians 5:13 together. What does it look like to use our freedom (found in Christ) to serve one another?
- How can implementing some of the rhythms discussed above help you to live freely? How can that freedom allow you to serve others more freely?
- Jesus says in John 10:10, that he has come that we may have abundant life. While evaluating our use of technology may seem like behavior management, we believe that allowing God access to all areas of our lives is a step toward abundant living. The point of this series isn’t boundaries around our phones. The point is that we would invite God into new areas, create new conversations with Him, and experience the gift of His presence in those areas. Psalm 16:11, reads that “in His presence there is fullness of joy.” How have you experienced God’s presence by inviting Him into your life in new ways during this series? Have you experienced new joy as a result?
- As Rebekah mentioned, our hope is not that you feel like you have more to do. Perhaps your application to this series is simply Un-doing something. What do you need to Un-do in response to this series?
- What is your biggest takeaway from the Screen Time Series?
- What has changed in your actions and what has changed in your heart in the last four weeks?
- Has this series affected other areas of your life other than your relationship with screens?
- What has this conversation shown you about God’s heart towards you?
One Final Thought
When we stay within the constraints of rhythm, we actually flourish; however, when we get out of that, chaos ensues.
– Rebekah Lyons
Here are some of resources Rebekah and Sean mentioned in their conversation today and others we think that will be helpful for you to practice rhythms of renewal.
Rhythms of Renewal by Rebekah Lyons (Book)
What’s Your Healthiest Rhythm? (Assessment)
The Sleep Revolution by Arianna Huffington (Book)
The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk (Book)
Wise Traditions by Weston A. Price Foundation (Podcast)
Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl (Book)
Get Your Life Back: Everyday Practices for a World Gone Mad by John Eldridge