For the leader: These questions are designed to be a guide and starting point for good conversation! You don’t have to ask all of them, and you can even add your own. The goal of tonight is not to finish these questions, it is to get your group talking openly about what God is showing them about this message. We encourage you to pick and choose from the questions below!


Technology and the use of it, while helpful, can definitely be a hot topic! People have a lot of thoughts when it comes to the use of technology. However, there does seem to be one thing about technology that most people have in common. Whether you are married, living at home with your parents, a college student, or a single adult with roomate, whomever you live with “They’re the ones on their phone too much!” But this series isn’t about THEIR relationship with THEIR phone, it’s about YOUR relationship with YOUR phone, tablet, tv, etc. Together we are going to begin to assess our relationship with our phones and how it affects us and those around us.

Use your story cards to begin your conversation. Lay them out, and ask each member to pick a card that represents their relationship with their phone. No doubt, you will get some good laughs! If for some reason you do not have story cards, please contact your groups director for some.

Start Talking

  1. How old were you when you got your first phone?
  2. What is your favorite app and why?
  3. Do you know anyone that is on their phone too much?
  4. Are there times/places that you do not have your phone with you? Are there times/places that you find you are on your phone more often than others?

What About You?

  1. What kind of relationship do you have with your phone (or device)?
  2. What do you spend most of your time doing on your phone?
  3. How have you found your phone (and all that it offers), to be helpful to you? And how have you found it to be detrimental?
  4. Josh shared with us the idea that “Endless appetite + endless access = recipe for gluttony”. Essentially, he was saying that our devices give us endless access to everything we are “hungry for and looking for”, and that we can essentially binge on them often leaving us feeling tired and hungover. How have you found this to be true in your own life?
  5. Do you have a “Theology of Technology” (What you believe about your device & how you are going to use it)?
  6. Josh gave us time during the message to identify where we felt phones/screens were creating the most tension in our lives. Which did you most identify with ?( Emotionally, physically, relationally, spiritually)

Look It Up

  1. Josh referenced Romans 12:1-2.  How could implementing a “Theology of Technology” transform our minds, and keep us from conforming to the patterns of this world?
  2. Read Matthew 16:24-28. These verses take place in the height of Jesus’ earthly ministry, as He is doing his best to show people the heart of God through miracles and teachings. Right in the middle of this passage is the verse Josh mentioned (v. 26). Jesus himself shares these words with his closest friends, the disciples, so it must be important! What do you think he hopes his friends understand about following Him?
  3. How have you found that while our devices offer us everything, we can also lose ourselves in them?

What Now?

  1. Josh mentioned three ways we can take back our souls from our phones this week. Which of these things do you plan to implement this week and how?
    • Set some phone free times.
    • Determine some phone free places.
    • Resist the boredom scroll.
  2. What has this conversation shown you about God’s heart towards you?

One Final Thought

❝Anything that doesn’t have a boundary around it is an idol.❞
— Priscilla Shirer, The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey Podcast


Helpful Resources

Here are a couple resources Josh mentioned in his talk today, and we think they are a great read!
The Tech-Wise Family by Andy Crouch (Book)
The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer (Book)
Our Souls + Our Screens by Ben Stuart (Sermon)
How to Configure Your iPhone to Work for You, Not Against You by Coach Tony via Medium (Article)