In relationships, we often believe if we find the right person it will make everything right. So we ask ourselves, “Is this the right person for me?” Maybe we need to be asking a different question—a question that shifts our focus from seeking the right kind of person to becoming the right kind of person.
The kind of person Jesus leads his followers to become is the kind of person we are looking for and, ultimately, want to become. Evaluate the type of person you are looking for and ask yourself, “Am I becoming that type of person?”
Many times, we learn from our mistakes in the areas that matter least, but we repeat our mistakes in the areas that matter most. So how can we ensure that the next time won’t be like the last time? Instead of being a conformer, it’s time to be a transformer.
Read Romans 12:1-2
After discussing these verses , how are your thoughts on dating (or marriage if married) changing?
Think on this: Until we see as He sees, We won’t do as He says. Ask God to help you see dating and marriage as He sees it. Then, it will be easier to “do” dating and marriage as God intends it.
The New Rules of Love, Sex, and Dating by Andy Stanley (Book)
Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age by Ben Start (Book)
Chasing Vines: Finding Your Way to an Immensely Fruitful Life by Beth More (Study)
Loveology by John Mark Comer (Book)
Goodness of God by Bethel Music (Song)