For the Leader: It’s important to remember that the principles in this series apply to everyone, regardless of their romantic relational status. In fact, they can apply to all of our relationships in some way. Ask God to give you wisdom on how to include everyone in your group in this conversation. Ultimately, we hope that this conversation helps us all remember how God loves us, and that as a result we would learn to love in a similar way. We encourage you to remind your group throughout this conversation that both “love” and “being slow to anger (patience, kindness), are fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). Thus, remaining close to God is how we become both loving and slow to anger! The question to keep coming back to today: How can we remain connected to God? (John 15:4)
Success is usually the result of preparation— not the product of good intentions or mere promises to succeed— and relationships are no exception to this rule. This is why it’s so important to get serious about becoming the kind of person the person we’re looking for is looking for, rather than simply hoping that once we find “the right person,” everything will work out. But to do so, we’ll have to examine the fine print of what Jesus asks of his followers in relationships. We’ll have to get serious about practicing his particular brand of love, which requires exercises in kindness and empathy now, in order to be ready later. That means practice, whether you are single, dating, or married!
Read 1 Corinthians 13:4–5.
Read Philippians 2:3-8.
The New Rules of Love, Sex, and Dating by Andy Stanley (Book)
Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age by Ben Start (Book)
Chasing Vines: Finding Your Way to an Immensely Fruitful Life by Beth More (Study)
Loveology by John Mark Comer (Book)
Goodness of God by Bethel Music (Song)