What do you want? What do you really want? We’ll never get what we really want until we discover what is most valuable. And what we naturally want is often in conflict with what we ultimately value. So, in order to figure out what you really want, you have to figure out what you value.

Start Talking

  • When Andy was reading through the funeral exercise from The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, what came to mind? Have you worked through this exercise before or a similar one?
  • When you think about what you want said at your funeral by the people you love and respect the most, what themes surface?
  • In The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey wrote, “If you carefully consider what you wanted to be said of you in the funeral experience, you will find your definition of success.” Based on this observation, what is success for you? Do you feel surprised by this?
  • How would you answer this question, “What does God really want for you?” Have you ever considered that God wants something for you versus something from you? If this is true, what does it change for you?

Read This

Read Galatians 5: 22-26

  • Of the “Fruits of the Spirit” listed, which do you desire most?
  • Which of these fruits line up with what you value/what you would want to be described like at your funeral?
  • Which of the fruits of the Spirit do you worry might interfere with your personal and professional goals? Is there an actual conflict?
  • How might your work/home relationships change if you allowed God to shift your attention to your values versus your wants?

What Now

  • When you determine what you value, you are less likely to settle for something you merely want. Is there an area in your life that you feel like you are settling?
  • Respond to this statement Andy made toward the end of his message: “What you really want and what God really wants for you may be closer than you imagine.” Does this come as a surprise? If this is true, what are the implications?
    • Is there a conflict between what you actually value and what you are currently pursuing?
    • Is there a conflict between your values and your behavior?

Additional Resources

7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey (Book)
The Life You’ve Always Wanted by Joel Ortberg (Book)