We’ll never get what we really want until we discover what is most valuable. But choosing what’s valuable doesn’t come naturally. We’ve all had the experience of getting what we naturally want, only to discover it’s not what is most valuable—it’s not what we ultimately want. But how do we avoid being deceived by our short-term desires?

Start Talking

  • Embracing what we value over what we want doesn’t often come naturally. In other words, there is a conflict between what we value and our human nature. When have you felt this tension?
  • Thinking about yourself: Is there anything in culture that contributes to this tension inside of you? I.e. instagram ads create a desire in you to buy more when you really value saving

Read This

Read Romans 7:15–19

  • What stands out to you?
  • Does it surprise you that Paul felt this way?
  • Growing up, how was the internal battle between right and wrong explained to you? 
  • What terms did your parents use to describe that internal conflict?
  • How do you describe that internal conflict now? What terms do you use as an adult?

Read Galatians 5:16-17

  • How does one “walk by the Spirit”? What does this mean?

Read James  1:14-16

  • Describe a time when you were dragged away by desire. It’s obvious what we are dragged toward, but what were you dragged away from?
  • Have you ever had a dream, relationship, or opportunity die because you were dragged away by something you wanted?
  • Why do you think James says ‘Don’t be deceived?”

What Now

  • What do you REALLY want?
  • What keeps driving you away from what you really want (and how much longer do you plan on letting what you naturally want drive you away from what you really want)?
  • Read Romans 12:1-2 together. What does it mean to renew your mind? What role do you think this may plan in choosing what you value over what you want? 
  • What do you need to do to practice renewing your mind?

This Week

Read Ephesians 6:12. Meditate on these words this week. What difference does it make that the battle in you and the battle we often have  with others is not against flesh and blood? Consider reading this verse in a study Bible if you would like some help understanding this verse and those around it!


Additional Resources

The Life You’ve Always Wanted by Joel Ortberg (Book)