It’s human nature to snuggle up to the edge of irresponsibility or disaster and stay there as long as possible. But instead of wondering how close we can get before crossing the line, we need to ask ourselves perhaps the most important question we can ever ask.

Discussion Questions

Start Talking

  • In what situations do you fall victim to the Five-Minute Syndrome (I have five more minutes before I need to….)?
  • “Our excuses escort us to the threshold of regret and abandon us there with little margin for error.” 
    • Does this statement ring true for you? 
    • Can you think of an example?
  • When making a decision, why are we more prone to evaluate options through the filters of legal, moral, ethical, and acceptable than through the filter of wisdom?
  • When has the assumption gotten you into more trouble than you were expecting?
    • The Assumption:
      • If it’s not wrong, it’s alright.
      • If it’s not illegal, it’s permissible.
      • If it’s not immoral, it’s acceptable.
      • If it’s not over the line, it’s fine.

Read This

  • Let’s review our verse for this series: Proverbs 27:12
    • How can you see the danger in the different options you are considering when making a decision?
  • Read Ephesians 5:11–16
    • What key words stand out to you? Why?
    • What does “be careful” mean to you?
    • How can you “make the most of every opportunity”?
  • Read 1 Corinthians 10:23.
    • What are some examples of things that are permissible, but not beneficial in your life?

What Now

  • What past experiences do you need to consider before making a decision you are facing?
  • What current circumstances do you tend to have to deal with before making a decision? (i.e. anger, impulsiveness, heartache, etc.)
  • What are your hopes and dreams for your future, for your kid’s futures? 
  • Would you commit to asking—not acting on—but simply asking the wisdom question for seven days every time you make a decision? 
    • In light of my past experience, my current circumstances, and my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing to do?
  • How can this group help?

Our excuses escort us to the threshold of regret.

Additional Resources

Bible Reading Plan 

Scripture: Proverbs 27:12

Song: “Build My Life” by Brett Younker, Karl Martin, Kirby Kaple, Matt Redman, and Pat