“An empire toppled by its enemies can rise again. But one which crumbles from within? That’s dead. Forever.” – Zemo, Captain America: Civil War

Discussion Questions

Start Talking

  • Have you ever been betrayed by someone you trusted? How did you react?
    • What questions went through your mind?
    • Were you able to repair the relationship or did the relationship end?
  • When trust is broken, or we feel betrayed, we need a solution. 
    • Three common solutions: Fight, Flight, or Freeze. Which solution do you normally use?
    • How beneficial has that solution been?

Read This

  • Read Proverbs 4:23 
    • Guard your heart in this verse can be accurately interpreted as guard your thought life.
      • Do you struggle with your thoughts?
      • Why is it important to guard your thought life?
    • In the sermon, he talked about guarding as directing, not just preventing thoughts.
      • What are some ways you can direct your thoughts in the right direction?
  • Read Matthew 26: 36-52
    • In this story we see Jesus’ example of dealing with betrayal. How does it make you feel to know that Jesus also dealt with betrayal from one of his closest friends?

What Now

  • Guardrail #1: The Purpose
    • Jesus kept His purpose in front of Him. How can knowing your purpose give you greater clarity in times of betrayal?
    • What can you do to help keep your purpose in front of you the next time you are betrayed?
  • Guardrail #2: The Picture
    • How can you have empathy for someone who has betrayed you?
    • How does looking at the bigger picture help you understand the person who betrayed you better?
  • Guardrail #3: The Step
    • “Vengeance has consumed you. It’s consuming them. I’m done letting it consume me.” Black Panther, Captain America: Civil War
      • Have you ever let vengeance consume you? 
      • How did it affect you? 
      • Those around you?
    • On the cross as he was dying Jesus declared, “Father, forgive them.” 
      • Have you ever offered forgiveness instead of vengeance?
      • How did it affect you?
      • Those around you?

Declarations To Guide Your Thoughts

  • God I Trust You
  • I Will Follow Your Ways
  • Be My Guide

Additional Resources

Bible Reading Plan 

Scripture: Proverbs 3:5-8

Song: “Forgiveness” by TobyMac ft. Lecrae

Podcast: “Forgiveness is a Decision and a Process” with Lysa Terkeurst and Jennie Allen